Get Over it

The Eagles music group had it right when they made those three words popular for this song.

Get over it simply states the obvious and yet there are so many people that will hang onto an event, situation, person or place as the cause of the failure for their current circumstances.  That’s a bunch of B.S. Listen up people, the reason it remains as the cause of your failure is because you let it.  You heard right, you let it.  Get over it.  It’s the past and there is absolutely nothing that you can do or say that will change the event or person.

I’m really sorry to hear that you were abused, taken advantage of, grew up poor, lost your job, dropped out of school, got in a car accident, were made fun of, overweight and put down, I truly am, but whatever happened to you isn’t who you need to remain. You have free will, use it. It’s the most powerful thing you have at your disposal.  Don’t let anyone or anything keep you from it.

Get over it. Lesson learned.  Move on. The past is the past and nothing will change it.  The only thing you can do is learn from it. The more you know what you don’t want the more clear you can be on what you do want.

·        Focus on what you want not what you don’t want

·        Focus on what you want your future to look like

·        Focus on how it would feel when you’re where you want to be

The past is gone and the future isn’t here so don’t worry about it, work on what is happening in the present moment. If you are a high school drop-out, then sign up for one course that will help you, you only need one to start, the rest will follow.  Take the first step.  If you were put down and made to feel unworthy, every day come up with at least five things that make you special.  Write them down and review them often.  If you were taken advantage of or made fun of, learn to stand up for yourself in a tactful and confident manner. You can start small and work your way up with your spouse or co-worker until you reach the person or situation that is the most challenging for you. It will take practice but keep with it. These are but a few examples but I think you get the picture.

Sure you’ll probably take a misstep and go back to your old way of thinking by singing the poor- poor pitiful me tune but stop yourself when you hear those thoughts and words surface.  Do an about face and remind yourself to get back into the present moment.  Remind yourself that that was the past but it doesn’t define or control you anymore for you have learned to love the experiences that have made you who you are. You got over it.