It is not because things are difficult we do not dare. It is because we do not dare that things are difficult." -- Seneca
Come on. Say yes to the dare. :)
There is a great book I read that really addresses the fear that keeps each of us from achieving what we're meant to do. It is called, Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway. This book gets down to the nitty gritty as to why you have the fear and what to do about it. Basically, fear will always be there. What are you going to do about it; let it rule you or conquer your fear and take control of your life? If you take a long hard look at the reasons you don't do something, there is a fear buried deep within you that you may not even admit to yourself. You're afraid. What are you afraid of; losing a friendship, relationship, job, possessions, financial security, yourself? Even when you look at addictions, the person is afraid of confronting someone or something so they drown themselves in the addiction to numb the reality. If it doesn't show up as an addiction, it may show up as being a work alcoholic, moody, withdrawn, or angry. It is only when the person faces their fear that he or she finally is in control of their destiny. Take the dare.