Some people say that they do not like the concept of power and want no part of it. It is true that in our world the word "power" has some negative overtone. It often implies control over others, and, unfortunately, is often misused.
The kind of power I am talking about is entirely different. In fact, it makes you less manipulative of those around you, and certainly more loving. I am talking about power within the self. This means power over your perceptions of the world, power over how you react to situations in your life, power to do what is necessary for you own self-growth, power to create joy and satisfaction in your life, power to act, and power to love.
This kind of power has nothing to do with anyone else. It is not egomania, but a healthy self-love. In fact, egomaniacs have absolutely no feeling of power-thus their compelling need to control those around them. Their lack of power leaves them in a perpetual state of fear, since their survival depends on the outside world. No one is more unloving than a person who can't own his or her own power. Such people spend their lives trying to pull it out of everyone else. Their need creates all sorts of manipulative behavior.
The kind of power I'm talking about leaves you free, since you don't expect the rest of the world to fill you up. It's not the ability to get someone else to do what you want them to do. It's the ability to get yourself to do what you want to do. If you do not own this kind of power, you lose your sense of peace. You are in a very vulnerable place.
When you become powerful within yourself, then you become authentic and loving to those around you. The truth is that love and power go together. With power, one can really begin to open the heart. With no power, love is distorted. You can easily play into being the victim.
From: "Feel the Fear ... and do it anyway", Susan Jeffers, PHD