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Wednesday, March 18, 2015

You Have to Know Where You Are Before You Know Where to Go

Where do you want to go, be or do? Well, the first thing you need to do is find out where you’re at. People tent to miss that part.  They immediately see something they want and start moving towards it without giving much thought to the direction they need to take. This isn’t a physical direction unless you’re talking about a place but your inner direction. You really need to know who you are first.

If you know you wanted to pick up a specific item at a specialty store at the Mall of America, what is the first thing you’d want to do as you walked into this huge multi level mall with over 520 shops and 50 restaurants? Would you start walking aimlessly around the complex that’s as large as seven Yankee Stadium’s until you found your store, not likely?

This first thing you’d want to do is check the marquee to find out what part of the complex your specialty store is in. What do you do next, start walking? NO.  The next step, and this is the part a lot of us make in regards to our own growth, is check to see where you’re at.  On the marquee it’s usually in big bold letters that say, YOU ARE HERE.

Now you know where you are in relation to where you want to go. And just like the walk you’ll be making to get to that store, don’t get discouraged because it’s a long walk to get there. Remember to keep thinking about what it’ll be like once you reach your destination (goal) and pick up (achieve) that item (desire) that you’ve wanted to get.

Monday, March 2, 2015

Get Over it

The Eagles music group had it right when they made those three words popular for this song.

Get over it simply states the obvious and yet there are so many people that will hang onto an event, situation, person or place as the cause of the failure for their current circumstances.  That’s a bunch of B.S. Listen up people, the reason it remains as the cause of your failure is because you let it.  You heard right, you let it.  Get over it.  It’s the past and there is absolutely nothing that you can do or say that will change the event or person.

I’m really sorry to hear that you were abused, taken advantage of, grew up poor, lost your job, dropped out of school, got in a car accident, were made fun of, overweight and put down, I truly am, but whatever happened to you isn’t who you need to remain. You have free will, use it. It’s the most powerful thing you have at your disposal.  Don’t let anyone or anything keep you from it.

Get over it. Lesson learned.  Move on. The past is the past and nothing will change it.  The only thing you can do is learn from it. The more you know what you don’t want the more clear you can be on what you do want.

·        Focus on what you want not what you don’t want

·        Focus on what you want your future to look like

·        Focus on how it would feel when you’re where you want to be

The past is gone and the future isn’t here so don’t worry about it, work on what is happening in the present moment. If you are a high school drop-out, then sign up for one course that will help you, you only need one to start, the rest will follow.  Take the first step.  If you were put down and made to feel unworthy, every day come up with at least five things that make you special.  Write them down and review them often.  If you were taken advantage of or made fun of, learn to stand up for yourself in a tactful and confident manner. You can start small and work your way up with your spouse or co-worker until you reach the person or situation that is the most challenging for you. It will take practice but keep with it. These are but a few examples but I think you get the picture.

Sure you’ll probably take a misstep and go back to your old way of thinking by singing the poor- poor pitiful me tune but stop yourself when you hear those thoughts and words surface.  Do an about face and remind yourself to get back into the present moment.  Remind yourself that that was the past but it doesn’t define or control you anymore for you have learned to love the experiences that have made you who you are. You got over it.