Where you are right now, and I mean this very moment, is where you’ve put yourself through your thoughts, words and actions.
If you don’t like where you’re at be it a job, home, friends or spouse is exactly where you’ve put yourself. If you don’t like it then you need to change all three of the above.
Life is constantly showing us what we want and what we don’t want in order for us to be clearer on what it is we really do want. Our thoughts, words and actions dictate where it will lead.
Sometimes you end up not liking the situation you’re in or the people you’re hanging around with. That too is a choice that can be changed. It’s a teeter totter of deciding what you want with what you don’t want.
It would be nice if you only got what you want but sometimes you’re not so clear on it so the universe throws you situations at you to help you become clear. Going through things you don’t want helps you become clearer on what you do want so you can make better future decision.
For example, you would like to date a guy who’s good looking, has a nice physique and a totally hot car. You eventually end up dating the guy only to be disappointed because he spends all his extra time and money on the gym or fixing up his car. After this experience you decide that quality time with the one you date is more important than your previous criteria. You got what she wanted only to find out it’s not what you REALLY want. You now change your parameters for dating. By getting what you don’t want you find out what you do want. It’s a blessing in disguise.
In a nut shell its growing pains, its life.