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Thursday, July 28, 2016

To Serve With Love

To Serve With Love

The buzz word lately has been to go out and serve others and that our purpose for being here is to serve.  I don’t particularly like that train of thought but I couldn’t figure out why.  It sounds well and good to show your compassionate self but I just wasn’t having an overwhelming desire or feeling to do so and I couldn’t figure out why.  What’s wrong with me?
I understood that once you overcome a challenge you desire to share your experience with others to help them do the same.  I get that.  I found that I like the word help but not serve.  Perhaps it’s because it brings up a negative reaction which reminds me of servitude which can mean any of the following;

1.   The state of being a slave
2.   The state of being ruled or dominated by somebody or something.
3.   Work imposed as punishment
4.   Work for somebody

This means to me no joy or reward in return.  Of course when people say you’re here to serve others they’re not referring to it in this way but to assist somebody in a particular way.  You could say that parents do that all the time.  A mother serves dinner to her family and helps them with their homework. A father drives his son to soccer practice and teaches him how to ride a bike.  The big difference here is it’s out of love.  Sure a parent is required to provide food, clothing and shelter but everything else is optional like cell phones, designer jeans and the extracurricular activities.  And let’s not forget the real winners here like buying the juice you know your child likes, making his peanut butter and jelly sandwich just the way he likes it or washing her favorite pair of jeans ahead of time for an event. All these little things, and don’t kid yourself they’re big, are acts of love.  Parents serve their children out of love.

There’s a really good book called, The 5 Love Languages by Gary D. Chapman and one of the love languages is “acts of service”.  Basically its states that when you do for others it’s actually the way you express your love.  It really makes sense when you see how much extra a parent will do for their child. Of course “acts of service” doesn’t just show up in regards to children.  It will show up with anyone you care about in your life.  

Monday, July 25, 2016

Want a President Needs to Lead

Want a President Needs to Lead

What are you looking for in a President? First you need to decide what makes a good leader because that is what the President does, lead.  Some people are natural leaders. You see them at work, fund raisers or your family reunion.  They step up to the plate to take on a project. However you’ll notice something else too.  Some are natural leaders while others are doing it for the recognition or power.  What’s the difference?  The natural leader is the person people will follow even if they don’t have the title or have been given the responsibility.  They naturally know what to do.  They exude confidence, clarity and conviction. Oh and another thing, they make decisions that aren’t always popular but are followed because the people respect the person’s decision.

A good leader is a person who has the strength and courage to undertake large projects.  It’s the ability to weave universal principles with everyday life.  This person has the gift of power.  Yes the gift.  As much as power has a negative connotation it also has just as much a positive connotation.
The world needs the CEO, general, and the person of authority.  A leader claims and utilizes his gift of power for the overall goal of the enterprise he’s tasked with directing.  A true leader uses this personal power without dominance or intimidation.  He doesn’t necessarily make popular decisions because he’s making them with a higher purpose in mind. He leads because that’s his natural strength and people follow because they recognize and understand the clear direction they are to take to reach the desired outcome. He gets results.  For him not to lead would be like asking you or me not to breathe.  It’s what he does.

Along with the gift of being a natural leader there are also challenges to it which make the person go from being in the gift of it to being in the challenge of it.  When a person is consumed by the acquisition of wealth, order others around, is intimidating or dominating people then he is in the challenge of it and needs to get back into the gift of it.

So what does a leader look like?  Some of the most recent leaders that have exhibited both the gift and challenge of being in the gift of leadership are General George Patton, Donald Trump, Lee Iacocca and Margaret Thatcher.  If you study the history of how they became leaders and how they conducted themselves you’ll see the gift and challenge of being a great leader.   Each of them gained the experience with each new leadership role they encountered.  Each will go down in history as making a difference in their field.  And one other interesting note, they haven’t always been the most liked or popular at times but were/are respected.

You also have the gift of leadership and when you need it remember to claim it from a place of personal power and not through dominance or intimidation. 

(originally written in 2012)