You Don’t Need Everyone Who Comes into Your Life
It seems people think the people who come into their lives are permanent fixtures, not so. Sometimes certain people are in your life for you to learn something like how to stand up for yourself, how to forgive or to teach you to move onto your next lesson but it doesn’t mean they stay forever. You CAN let them go.
For example you likely don’t hang around the people you did when you were in elementary, high school, college or even from a previous job. You probably still like your former classmates and coworkers but there’s an understanding that each of us grows into who we are and thereby need to move on. Life continues to give you opportunities to grow and you need to take them.
People generally understand this unwritten social fact of life but it seems when we get involved in our relationships we can tend to hang onto a person longer than what is necessary. It could be a romantic relationship or a friendship that’s run its course but due to emotional attachment and the pain it would cause to dissolve it, we hang on. Now that doesn’t mean you don’t like, respect and love the person, it’s just they’re holding you back from being who you were born to be. In some cases it’s you holding on because you’re afraid to move on.
What are the signs that it’s time to move on? Actually it’s easier to ask yourself if the person brings value to your life.
The people you want to keep in your life are the ones who show up in actions and words to support you no matter where that will take you even if that means you moving away. If you find yourself in a one-way relationship it’s time to evaluate the significance of this person being in your life. Does the person bring value to your life? It doesn’t necessarily mean you permanently remove this person from your life but rather their statue of importance becomes an acquaintance rather than a close friend.
The bottom line is that you don’t need everyone who comes into your life. Trust your instinct on this one. It’s always right.