What’s Holding You Back?

Do any of these statements sound like you?

• I just can’t seem to get motivated to move forward.

• I’ve been meaning to do that but I just haven’t got around to it.

• I’m concerned about our financial situation.

• I need a few drinks to calm me down again.

What do all these statements have in common ………….? Give up?

They’re all based in fear. Depression, procrastination, worry and addictions are all based in fear. The fear could be just about anything like fear of success, fear of rejection, fear of failure and fear of the unknown to name a few.

When you’re in the state of fear you’re on the opposite side of the Principle of Polarity. The Principle of Polarity basically states that there is an equal and opposite of everything. It’s a universal law. Therefore, just like there is hot/cold, black/white, up/down, question/answer there is love and fear.

Yes, the opposite of love is fear. You see there are really only two emotions; love based or fear based emotions. If you’re not in a love based emotion then you’re in a fear based emotion and it’s easy to figure out which one you’re in. Of course there are varying degrees to an emotion just like there is in hot/cold and black/white etc.

So what are some of these love based emotions that you want to strive for? They are feelings like; appreciation, kindness, joy, hope and optimism. The fear based emotions are just as easy to identify. The words alone have a negative connotation to them. They are feelings like; sorrow, anger, discouraged, irritated and blame.

The first thing you need to do to change your fear based emotion into a love based emotion to find happiness is to become aware of what you’re feeling. Is it worry or procrastination? Identify which feeling based emotion you are feeling. Once you’ve figured that out you need to go deeper to figure out what you’re actually afraid of. This may take some time but if you’re truly honest with yourself the answer will come. All the outward signs of fear (worry, depression, addiction) are a cover up for something else that you don’t want to address. It’s only when you figure out what the true fear is and take steps to resolve it do you truly begin to move from fear to love.

There is a really good book in regards to this called, “Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway”, by Susan Jeffers PHD. It’s listed on the right column of my blog for easy reference.