You don’t attract that which you want but that which you already are. Therefore, if you want to attract what you want, then you must be that.
In a practical sense, it’s always been said that you should dress for the job you want not the one you currently have and that those who already are doing the job get the promotion. Our wishes and prayers are gratified and answered only when they harmonize with our thoughts and actions. You get what you justly earned.
Another way of looking at it is by the saying, “Birds of a feather flock together.” It’s not by accident that like people hang together, they’ve found a group that is like them at that moment in time. Even if it may appears that the person doesn’t belong to a group, at some level there is an attraction to it. At times it could be strong like a magnet and other times it could be a slight tug.
People hang together because it makes them feel good about themselves. They’ve found others that agree with their values, goals and views. However it doesn’t mean that it can’t be changed, it can, if the person chooses to make the change. A smoker hangs out with other smokers because they have something in common. At first they may not have much else in common but then slowly they develop a bond because of the habit. A group is formed.
But before all this action takes place there had to be the initial thought to begin with. It means the person had to have the thought to even pick up a cigarette and then the opportunity arose to make the action possible. This scenario is played over and over for any kind of example you can think of be it for a behavior or action. The thought comes first and then the action. Therefore, if you want better outcomes then you have to have better thoughts. As it proclaims in the Book of Proverbs (23:7) “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he”.