Recently I’ve heard of many incidents where one person has cut down, degraded, insulted, bad mouthed or was just plain mean, you name it, to someone I know.
It hurts the person I know whether they put on a strong front or not debunking the notion that words can hurt after all. They begin to doubt themselves and their self-image starts to falter. The bigger picture is about the aggressor.
It’s sad because the aggressor, deep down, doesn’t accept himself so he projects his dissatisfaction with himself onto others. In his own twisted mind this makes him feel better. Consciously he may not know that it’s the real reason he does what he does but it is.
Yep, it truly is sad that someone has to make someone else feel bad in order to feel good. It’s as if he’s saying, “I’m not happy with my life and therefore neither should you be. Now you’re on the same level as me so I can feel better about myself.”
At the core he doesn’t accept himself and therefore love himself as he and his life are. Accept is a love based emotion. It would be better if the recipient was emotionally strong enough to bring the aggressor into their positive energy, to change the dissatisfaction into acceptance. I wonder what would happen if the recipient responded in a kind loving manner. Would it jolt the aggressor into a different frame of mind? It’s an action worth trying. What do you think?